8 Ways To Reignite Intimacy In Your Relationship

Somewhere along the way, your epic love story turned into…a shared calendar app. You and your partner now function like highly efficient co-CEOs of Household, Inc.—dividing chores, paying bills, and bickering about who left the dryer lint filter full. If your...

The Key to Deeper Love, Lasting Happiness, and a Relationship Legacy You’re Proud Of

By Dr. John Schinnerer | LoveIsntEnough.net | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com   “What am I feeling right now… and why can’t I talk about it?” If you grew up socialized as a man, chances are no one taught you how to talk about emotions—let alone feel them....

Why Do I Struggle With Difficult Conversations And Uncomfortable Emotions?

by Dr. John Schinnerer | July 23, 2025 Avoidance. That sneaky little gremlin that convinces you that cleaning out the junk drawer is definitely more urgent than facing your emotions, having that long-overdue talk with your partner, or—heaven forbid—doing a little...

How to Get Your Husband to Consider Couples Therapy (Without Pushing Him Away)

Use Attachment Theory To Make Your Boyfriend/Husband Feel Safe Enough To Explore The Possibility You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid a Fight. If you’ve brought up couples therapy to your husband and it was met with silence, sarcasm, or outright...

A Love Letter from an Anxiously Attached Woman: Navigating Relationship Anxiety with Vulnerability and Hope

My Love, I’ve written and rewritten this letter more times than I care to admit. Every attempt comes with fear—fear of being too much, too emotional, too needy. But avoiding what’s real hasn’t helped either. And I know I need to be honest—not just for you, but for me,...
The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Love Isn’t Enough

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Love Isn’t Enough

One of the most common and painful patterns in relationships is what’s known as the “anxious-avoidant trap.” If you’ve ever found yourself desperately wanting connection while your partner pulls away—or vice versa—you’re not alone. This dynamic can...