How to Get Your Husband to Consider Couples Therapy (Without Pushing Him Away)

Use Attachment Theory To Make Your Boyfriend/Husband Feel Safe Enough To Explore The Possibility You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid a Fight. If you’ve brought up couples therapy to your husband and it was met with silence, sarcasm, or outright...

A Love Letter from an Anxiously Attached Woman: Navigating Relationship Anxiety with Vulnerability and Hope

My Love, I’ve written and rewritten this letter more times than I care to admit. Every attempt comes with fear—fear of being too much, too emotional, too needy. But avoiding what’s real hasn’t helped either. And I know I need to be honest—not just for you, but for me,...

Master Your Mindset: A Wild Ride Through Relationships, Weight Loss, Pain Management & More!

Hey there, fellow seekers of contentment and connection! I’m Dr. John Schinnerer, here to take you on a little adventure through the labyrinth of the human mind and its infinite potential. Today, we’re diving into the power of mindset and how this magical force can...
The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Love Isn’t Enough

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Love Isn’t Enough

One of the most common and painful patterns in relationships is what’s known as the “anxious-avoidant trap.” If you’ve ever found yourself desperately wanting connection while your partner pulls away—or vice versa—you’re not alone. This dynamic can...

How To Live Without Regret:  Here’s What Older Men Wish We All Knew Sooner.

If you’ve ever talked to a man in his 50s or 60s who’s done some real soul work, you know this: He’s not trying to impress you. He’s trying to spare you. His past pain. I asked a group of men over 50, “What’s one mistake you’d avoid if you could go back in time for a...

The People Pleasing Trap: Reclaiming Your Needs (Part 3 of 3)

By Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose, LMFT  |  LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | GuideToSelf.com | JoreeRose.com | MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com  In Part 1, we explored how guilt and boundaries fuel people pleasing. In Part 2, we unpacked the deeper...