MDMA-Assisted Couples Therapy: Promise, Cautions, and Current Evidence

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntenough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com Many couples enter therapy with high hopes of repairing their relationship, only to find themselves stuck in the same patterns of conflict and disconnection. For some, traditional...

The Key to Deeper Love, Lasting Happiness, and a Relationship Legacy You’re Proud Of

By Dr. John Schinnerer | LoveIsntEnough.net | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com   “What am I feeling right now… and why can’t I talk about it?” If you grew up socialized as a man, chances are no one taught you how to talk about emotions—let alone feel them....

How to Get Your Husband to Consider Couples Therapy (Without Pushing Him Away)

Use Attachment Theory To Make Your Boyfriend/Husband Feel Safe Enough To Explore The Possibility You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid a Fight. If you’ve brought up couples therapy to your husband and it was met with silence, sarcasm, or outright...

 Depressed? Here Is How A Psychologist Deals With It:  Top Tips From a Shrink Who’s Been There

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com  • LoveIsntEnough.net Let’s not sugarcoat it: depression is a soul-sucking jerk. It crashes into your life uninvited, devours your energy, hijacks your joy, and then whispers, “This is your life now and forever.” Oh, and it...

How to Curb Your Partner’s Jealousy (Without Losing Your Mind or Your Relationship)

Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net Jealousy in a relationship is like a smoke alarm—it’s supposed to protect you, but sometimes it just starts blaring because someone burned the toast. More often than not, jealousy isn’t about what’s happening...

What a Therapist Does When Feeling Depressed: Top Tips From a Psychologist Who’s Been There

Depression is the worst houseguest. It barges in uninvited, devours all your emotional snacks, zaps your energy, steals your joy, and then whispers, “You’ll never feel better again.” Oh, and it tries to convince you you’re the only poor soul who’s ever felt this bad....

People-Pleasing Is Killing Your Sex Life (And Perhaps Your Relationship). Here’s How to Stop It!

Let’s be honest—most of us suck at setting boundaries. We say “yes” when we mean “hell no,” all in the name of being liked, loved, or, at the very least, not yelled at. Classic people-pleasing. And while it might keep things “nice” on the surface, it’s wrecking your...

It’s Not What’s Wrong With You, It’s What Happened To You

John Schinnerer, Ph.D. GuideToSelf.com, LoveIsntEnough.net, TheEvolvedCaveman.com Hey, you! Yes, you with the unresolved childhood traumas that screw up your relationships without your awareness (oh wait, that’s all of us!). Let’s talk about what’s really...
Embracing A Growth Mindset in Relationships: A Journey Beyond Love

Embracing A Growth Mindset in Relationships: A Journey Beyond Love

Hello, courageous readers. It’s Dr. John Schinnerer here, and I’m excited to share insights from our latest episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast with the remarkable Joree Rose. Today, we’re delving deep into the intricacies of relationships and the...

How Psilocybin & MDMA Transform Men’s Mental Health and Relationships

A New Era in Men’s Relational & Psychological Health By Dr. John Schinnerer GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com Men today are facing challenges unlike any generation before. Rates of depression, anxiety, addiction, and loneliness are...

How Childhood Emotions Shape the Relationships We Have Today

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com What if your emotional patterns at age five could predict how you love, fight, communicate, and connect decades later? That’s exactly the kind of insight uncovered by the Dunedin...

The Top Online Anger Management Courses of 2025 (And the One That Transforms Your Anger)

The Best Online Anger Management Classes – 2025  If you’re reading this, chances are that anger has been making your family feel unsafe  —  or maybe even threatening your career or your marriage. The good news? You can learn to manage your anger in the comfort...

8 Ways To Reignite Intimacy In Your Relationship

Somewhere along the way, your epic love story turned into…a shared calendar app. You and your partner now function like highly efficient co-CEOs of Household, Inc.—dividing chores, paying bills, and bickering about who left the dryer lint filter full. If your...

Why Do I Struggle With Difficult Conversations And Uncomfortable Emotions?

by Dr. John Schinnerer | July 23, 2025 Avoidance. That sneaky little gremlin that convinces you that cleaning out the junk drawer is definitely more urgent than facing your emotions, having that long-overdue talk with your partner, or—heaven forbid—doing a little...

A Love Letter from an Anxiously Attached Woman: Navigating Relationship Anxiety with Vulnerability and Hope

My Love, I’ve written and rewritten this letter more times than I care to admit. Every attempt comes with fear—fear of being too much, too emotional, too needy. But avoiding what’s real hasn’t helped either. And I know I need to be honest—not just for you, but for me,...

Master Your Mindset: A Wild Ride Through Relationships, Weight Loss, Pain Management & More!

Hey there, fellow seekers of contentment and connection! I’m Dr. John Schinnerer, here to take you on a little adventure through the labyrinth of the human mind and its infinite potential. Today, we’re diving into the power of mindset and how this magical force can...

The Top 10 Podcasts For Men

The Top 10 Podcasts For Guys (Unless You Enjoy Being Alone!) Listen Up, Because Love Isn’t Enough If You’re Still Emotionally Twelve Let’s be real: your brain’s a cluttered attic of unresolved low key traumas and cognitive errors, your emotional intelligence peaked...
The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Love Isn’t Enough

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Love Isn’t Enough

One of the most common and painful patterns in relationships is what’s known as the “anxious-avoidant trap.” If you’ve ever found yourself desperately wanting connection while your partner pulls away—or vice versa—you’re not alone. This dynamic can...

How to Talk So Your Partner Listens: Breaking the Cycle of Miscommunication

By Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose | LoveIsntEnough.net When it comes to relationships, one of the most common complaints couples share is: “My partner doesn’t really hear me.” In this article, we’re pulling back the curtain on our own...

How To Live Without Regret:  Here’s What Older Men Wish We All Knew Sooner.

If you’ve ever talked to a man in his 50s or 60s who’s done some real soul work, you know this: He’s not trying to impress you. He’s trying to spare you. His past pain. I asked a group of men over 50, “What’s one mistake you’d avoid if you could go back in time for a...

The People Pleasing Trap: Reclaiming Your Needs (Part 3 of 3)

By Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose, LMFT  |  LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | GuideToSelf.com | JoreeRose.com | MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com  In Part 1, we explored how guilt and boundaries fuel people pleasing. In Part 2, we unpacked the deeper...

The People Pleasing Trap: Facing Conflict, Resentment, and the Path to Your True Self (Part 2 of 3)

By Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose, LMFT. | LoveIsntEnough.net. | GuideToSelf.com  | JoreeRose.com  In Part 1, we unpacked how people pleasing shows up through poor boundaries and excessive guilt. These patterns are often so deeply rooted that we don’t even...

The People Pleasing Trap: Understanding and Breaking Free (Part 1 of 3)

By Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose, LMFT People pleasing often shows up as a deeply ingrained pattern of putting other people’s needs, wants, and emotions above our own. While this may seem noble on the surface, chronic people pleasing can quietly erode your...

Anger Management for Men: Why You’re Mad as Hell—and It’s Destroying Your Relationships

By Dr. John Schinnerer | LoveIsntEnough.net |. GuideToSelf.com Let’s talk about something most men never get real guidance on—anger. Not the quick flash that passes in five seconds. I’m talking about the slow boil that simmers beneath the surface. The outbursts that...

The Next AI Revolution Is Emotional—And Men, It’s Time to Evolve Or Be Left Behind

By Dr. John Schinnerer | LoveIsntEnough.net | GuideToSelfo.com  Let’s be honest—there’s never been a more confusing time to be a man. We’re caught between outdated models of masculinity (think emotional stoicism, control, independence at all costs) and a world that’s...