by Dr. John Schinnerer | Sep 2, 2026 | Communication & Conflict, Emotional Intelligence, Intimacy & Connection
There’s a particular kind of quiet that scares people more than fighting does. Nobody slammed a door. Nobody said anything cruel. You had a perfectly civil conversation about the dishwasher and the car registration and whose turn it is for pickup, and then you both...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Aug 5, 2026 | Communication & Conflict, Intimacy & Connection
Short version: the same skills that make you exceptional at work — efficiency, control, closing the loop — can quietly turn a marriage into a very well-run household with almost no romance left in it. We call this the Roommate Trap. Here’s why the strongest...
by joree | Jul 29, 2025 | Intimacy & Connection
Somewhere along the way, your epic love story turned into…a shared calendar app. You and your partner now function like highly efficient co-CEOs of Household, Inc.—dividing chores, paying bills, and bickering about who left the dryer lint filter full. If your...
by joree | Jul 28, 2025 | Happiness & Positive Psychology, Intimacy & Connection
By Dr. John Schinnerer | LoveIsntEnough.net | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com “What am I feeling right now… and why can’t I talk about it?” If you grew up socialized as a man, chances are no one taught you how to talk about emotions—let alone feel them....
by joree | Apr 21, 2025 | Intimacy & Connection, People-Pleasing & Boundaries
Let’s be honest—most of us suck at setting boundaries. We say “yes” when we mean “hell no,” all in the name of being liked, loved, or, at the very least, not yelled at. Classic people-pleasing. And while it might keep things “nice” on the surface, it’s wrecking your...
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